Maintaining mobility: Learning to be a passenger instead of a driver

When refresher courses, self-regulation, and familiar routes no longer seem like enough, it’s time to retire from driving. Even with proper planning and preparation, handing over the keys is never an easy decision. Some seniors worry they’ll become housebound or lose their independence. But really, it’s all in how you look at it.

Overcoming resistance

“You have to have a mutual support system, where you do things for other people and they return the favour.”

— C. Therrien

Sometimes an older driver’s fear of losing their independence can trump even the most logical argument and their own better judgment. It’s to be expected! The trick is to ease into the transition:

• While they’re still driving, they could offer rides to other seniors. It might make them more willing to ask for help when their time comes.

• Don’t sell the car out from under them. A senior may feel more comfortable being driven on errands in their own car during the transition period.

For most people, giving up driving—like aging itself—is a gradual process, not a sudden event. The earlier you start discussing the inevitable effects of aging, the better you’ll be able to find solutions everyone can live with. A senior is more likely to accept their new role as a passenger if they know what to expect:

• Be frank and open, proactive, and attentive to their needs.

• Don’t nag or be confrontational.

• Encourage them to assess their own driving or see a doctor.

• Be attentive and understanding.

• Decide on an action plan together.
  

Plusieurs personnes âgées qui conduisent depuis longtemps n’ont jamais pris l’autobus ou le métro, par exemple, et leur première expérience influencera leur attitude et leur décision de continuer dans cette voie ou non. Un proche peut donc:

• Get information on schedules and routes.

• Buy the tickets or passes for them.

• Go with them the first time.

• Be encouraging and available.

“There are a lot of ways to keep getting out even without a car.”

— G. Doyon

“Seniors ride the bus for free in Laval. There are also shuttles that go to different shopping centres, so getting around isn’t a problem.”

— D. Pouliot

“Taking the bus was a real challenge for me at first, but I got used to it and started talking to people. Sometimes we even meet up for coffee.”

— V. Barnabé

“I see my son and grandson more often because they help me run errands.”

— J. Frazer

“After I sold my car, I made a transportation budget to use for bus and taxi fare. Now even the rain doesn’t hold me back.”

— P. Hébert

“Every time my friend drives me somewhere, I whip up a little something for her. Since she lives alone, she really appreciates it!”

— M. Tremblay

“Ugh. I wouldn’t even discuss selling my car—it was unthinkable. My daughter and I even fought about it. If only I’d known then what I know now... I’m so much less stressed! Plus I used the money I got from selling the car and cancelling the insurance to go on a trip!”

— A. Beaudoin